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Part 3: Why Dating is Fundamentally Flawed

This post was written in response to Thomas Umstattd Jr’s. article, “ Why Courtship is Fundamentally Flawed ”. In Part 1 , I discussed the main problem with dating and courtship, in Part 2 , I showed from the Bible an alternative to the way most relationships are carried out, and in this post I would like to return to the topic of dating to answer some more points that Umstattd brought up. “ How can you tell who you want to marry if you aren’t going out on dates? ” - Umstattd’s grandmother’s query when she heard about courtship Umstattd’s grandmother’s question brings up the important issue of, “Are you trying to find the person you’re supposed to marry, or are you trusting God to bring you the person you are supposed to marry?” Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.” If you’re trusting God to bring you whom you’re supposed to marry (the sa

Part 2: God's Plans Are Not Fundamentally Flawed

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This post was written in response to Thomas Umstattd Jr’s post called “ Why Courtship is Fundamentally Flawed ”. In Part 1 , I went over why dating isn’t scriptural and the main problem with it and courtship (if you haven’t read it, I would encourage you to read it, so that you understand where I’m coming from). Neither dating or courting can be found in the Bible, but God did tell us a way to go about relationships. In this post I will be discussing the instruction He has given to us about it. But first I just want to say…. Our main purpose on earth is not to get married. Sorry to pop your balloon, but it’s not. “Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Amen.” Matthew 28:19-20 “This is My commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you. “Gre

Part 1: Why Most Romantic Relationships Are Fundamentally Flawed

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Thomas Umstattd Jr. recently wrote an article titled “ Why Courtship is Fundamentally Flawed ”. Since then, different thoughts have been posted about his article; some disagreed with parts of what he said, some agreed with all of it, and some tied it to a pole and lit it on fire while dancing around laughing maniacally because courtship is the only way and how dare you say it isn’t?! I am not here because I agree with what Umstattd wrote, and I am not here because I am an advocate of courtship. My family was  seeking the Lord about relationships and He showed us a different way to go about romantic relationships, but more on that in part 2. His article caused several red flags to rise up in my mind while I read it. First, he uses no Scripture. The only place you will find scripture is where he is saying that courtship is not biblical (which it isn’t), using the examples of Ruth and Boaz (the woman was the protagonist in the romance), Jacob and Rachel (the man was the protagon